Our story in Motherhood Magazine – Dec 2010 Issue

During our long drawn moments at the hospital 1+ year back, while our little boy was yet unborn, Kim and I kept encouraging ourselves that Xi En will be A Miracle and he will live to tell the story. It was pretty much what kept us going day by day, hour by hour, min by min, sec by sec. Of course, being totally human, in our darkest moments, we had fear the worst before.


However, God proved to be real and so real in our lives. Our little boy was born miraculously and survived his birth journey for us to share his story with Melissa Especkerman, a writer for Motherhood Magazine.


Melissa read my pregnancy story on this blog and wrote the following article. This is probably a good summary of my pregnancy-cum-birth story till date. One of Xi En earlier photos in the incubator was featured too. Certainly hope that this article will go a long way to bring HOPE to others in similar situations. 🙂

Happy reading. 🙂




N.B  – This article was first published in Dec 2010 Motherhood Magazine. All credits due to Motherhood Magazine.


My fellow comrade – Mdm Tan – came visiting last week with the her family and boy – Yuan Hao. Our families shared a story with many similarities and thus it felt like a big reunion when we “reunite” again. This time round, the setting is different. Instead of lying down and talking across our hospital beds; we were sitting at our dinning table, sharing baby stories and carrying our “trophies” victoriously. 🙂 Both our sons are growing healthily and had came a long way from their low birth weights.


It was definitely a happy sight; one that we were hoping to see ever since our encounter at KKH some 7 to 8 months back! Mdm Tan was so sweet and excited that she bought 2 new identical rompers for our boys. Photo-taking is definitely a must for this “historical and special” day. Poor boys – Hao and Xi En – were so sleepy but we still changed them into the rompers and embarked on our photo taking session.


Some moments of the day:




hao & xi en 2

Xi En on the left and Hao on the right (getting restless)



hao & xi en1

Hao dozing off.. come on turn your head to the center

hao & xi en 3

why are you forcing me to take a photo?! Wahhhha!!!!!!!!!

Xi En & Yuan Hao 1

Hao is now on the left and Xi En is on the right. Not much help though! haa.. 🙂

xi en & yuan hao 3

Xi En: Hao, don't cry already. So loud - must cover my ears. Hao: Whaaa!! I don't want! Whaaa!!

xi en & yuan hao 4

Xi En: Now that's a good boy, Hao. 🙂 Hao: Hee.. as long as I have my pacificer, you can do whatever you want. 😉

xi en & hao 6

Finally - one good shot of the boys holding hands!

xi en & yuan hao 5

side profiles

xi en & yuan hao 6

Ok. That's enough. We wanna sleep!

We also had some group photos:



group photo 2

the mummies ("swapping" sons)

group photo 3

the mummies with the "right" sons now. 🙂

group photo 4

the grannies

group photo 1

One group photo to end the day

Indeed it was good to see Mdm Tan and her family/son  again. It was really a nostalgic feeling; recalling how we braved the complications together; sharing stories of how many blood tests we both have to do per week, how many scans, how many ctg readings, how high are our amniotic fluid,which doctors are better and etc etc etc… Not forgetting how we shared durians in an attempt to increase our babies’ weight too! God is good to us both! 🙂




I shared about my fellow “comrade” during my stay at the hospital (KKH). Patient T – more commonly known as Madam Tan – went through a very similar predicament as me. Right now it is comforting to know that both our babies are growing strong and healthy.

Some interesting similarities that bonded the friendship between both families (adapted in English from Mdm Tan’s blog):


  1. Both of us were pregnant with our first baby boy.
  2. Both of us had burst water bag between 21 to 23 weeks of gestation and were admitted into the same ward with beds facing each other.
  3. Both of us love to hide behind our curtains in the ward; eating durians! 😛 (because we heard that durians will help our babies put on weight! But clearly this old wives’ tale didn’t work for me!)
  4. Both of us have loving hubbies who came to the hospital after work everyday without fail to visit us. Both hubbies bear all things in silence; willingly and lovingly supported us throughout the entire pregnancy in the hospital. 🙂
  5. Both of us have mothers who are super-women! Both mothers will go to the hospital everyday; bringing healthy home-cooked food which we readily shared among both families.
  6. Amazingly – both of us gave birth to our sons at gestational week 31+ 1 day!
  7. Both our babies were born in July – Xi En was born on 31st July and Yuan Hao was born on 13th July. Think about it.. rare to come by 2 dates who are opposite digits within the same month!


So many coincidences (or God-incidences to us) have created an invisible bonding between both families. It is also probably because no one will understand better than a fellow “comrade” who went through the same “suffering”. I am thankful for Mdm Tan because she had taught me resilience and in the midst of “darkness”; we supported each other. 🙂

Both of us can definitely see this friendship continuing to our sons’ generation!


Xi En & Yuan Hao